THE GAME OF COURTSHIP Series-1 Courtship: Potential mates and high alert for girls

                                             THE GAME OF COURTSHIP

                                                               Series-1

       Courtship: Potential mates and high alert for girls

I am giving a temporary break to the story telling series of mine and in few subsequent blogs elicit the whole and through assessment of the “Game of Courtship”.

And why do I so abruptly thought to write about it is because suddenly like there is increase in the cases of viral fevers, dengue fevers or any other kind of fever, there is dramatically increase in ditching, break up games of courtship, more for girls less for guys, but they are turning to me for a remedy or a solution.

“Break –up not an end of the road”, Is the tag line for looser.

Why?

 Because it is not any solution.

Whenever a person, irrespective of guy or girl experiences the red blushes of intimate feelings of passionate love it generates feel good chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, norepinephrine, acetylcholine & oxytocine which shut down the stress and critical thinking centres of brain and generate the feeling of ECSTASY, similar to the effects produce by drugs like cocaine, opiates like heroin, morphine. And when suddenly “Break-up” cut the supply of these neuro chemicals of brain, the body starts to suffer from the weaning effect of these, leading to withdrawal symptoms. And their miseries are more increased when there is sudden increase in stress hormones cortisol in body. Apparently, according to research, it hurts equivalent to physical pain because it triggers the same pain circuits. Therefore any broad blunt statement rather than being a band-aid to their wounds aggravate their pain many folds and throw them in abyss of depression.

The solution, I offer is to make them more smarter by making them understand this game thoroughly, giving them positivity to play it again and next time when they enter this ring of fire, they are thoroughly prepared not repeating their earlier mistakes and controlling the whole set of affair. After all the BEST REVENGE IS TO LIVE YOUR LIFE AS PERFECTY AS YOU CAN AND GIVING NO SHIT ABOUT THE ONE WHO DARE TO BREAK YOUR HEART.

I show them a mirror with a bright future and the flow chart steps to make a kill. I revive their dream and ambition. There is motivation which according to the rules of universe is inversely proportionate to Depression.

So, Let the GAME BEGINS.......

Courtship is not the recent event or few centuries old but it dates back to primitive man in early Stone Age. The main problem of early man was to produce healthy and long living progenies so that their genes could be conserved. Even Darwin elicit it in it’s theory that mating game is part and parcel of  every species growth and perseverance, where females choose among the best of the males as their suitors, therefore it is said,

LET THE BEST MAN WIN.

And the architecture of selection is not the recent one, neither it gets modified by the modern centuries; it remains the same, as it was hardwired in the brains of primitive men, millennia ago. And this whole courtship circuits, now-a-days, we call, falling truly, madly, deeply, heads over heels in love.

POTENTIAL MATES for Women

According to the study, females are more interested in credentials of a man rather than his handsome looks. They will fall for a man with a social status along with secured job and salary. They always think of long term relationship.

Another research found that their male preference is the one who is at least four inches taller or three and a half year older. This female mate preference in universal, irrespective of any culture.

For Men  POTENTIAL MATES

 Men on another hand are attracted to women who shows most healthy reproductive ability and with attractive features, which are at average two and half years younger than they are. They should be attractive and presentable [as there is unsaid competition among the peers, that who get the most attractive damsel off them all] with clear skin, bright eye, full lips, shiny hairs & curvy syminetrical hour glass figure. After all these are the observable sign of fertility and health.

WHY DO GIRLS ALWAYS FALL FOR WRONG GUY?

This is a common story and mostly one of our friend’s cousins has this fate. It is like girls grow up seeing fairy tales and believe that there is definitely a knight with shining armor trooping on his white steed, to enter into her life and rescue her from her daily difficulties. All she asks is protection. Therefore she really get influenced by the brave stories of struggle that guy suffered during growing up years for his family and dreams that one day he will take stand for her, in the time of need. They even get charmed by the scars or scalds of fight on their guy face, after all they are the “MACHO-MAN”.

But it turns out, that these guys have suffered the perils of stress and the only way to vent it out is to find a woman who appreciate them and to whom they could tell the anecdotes of his bravery. This satisfied their “Ego” and when the stress condition is over and life smiles brighter, they try to leave the past including that girl behind and venture out for a new bright sunny beginning. Therefore, it is advised for girls to abstain from self obsessed Rambos.

A patient of mine was very much impressed by a guy, who after the death of his father at very young age, struggled hard, taking full responsibility of his mother and his studies and with lot of difficulties was able to complete his studies and land up in a modest paying job. He always has the incidents of childhood, that once they never have anything to eat and how in just 2 pairs of jeans, he passed the whole collage life, to tell to her. Their relationship went on for quite a long period of time, ultimately ending abruptly, as the boy, of sudden cut off all the contacts with her. She was baffled and anxiously left him so many messages, tried to call him. She did it for weeks but there was no response, she sulked in depression. It was only after couple of months she came to know that the guy got promotion in the job, got a salary hike and out of blue got hold of some ancestral property. And since he was filling every credential for an eligible groom, his mother found him a bride to get married this December.

So therefore, the lesson to learn here is that not every scar on the guys face or every word coming out of his mouth is to be believed on the face value. It may not be a token of his mojo but could be a painful reminder of careless fall after getting drunked in middle of the road, which he could be cashing on you.

WHY THEY SAY “LOVE IS BLIND”?

Well, “Love is blind” because we shut our eyes over our lover mistakes even though how erroneous they are. There is a scientific reason behind it. When the person drawn himself in the infatuation passionate love kind of thing, the brains fear alert systems amygdale and anterior cingulated cortex the critical thinking centre and worrying centre are shut down, [which are on high alert in females when they meet strangers] and the brain is flooded with feel good hormones and neurochemicals which give the feeling of high.     

To make the situation more badly, there comes “the hug”. Twenty seconds, just twenty seconds of hug, triggers the production of oxytocine to many folds that click the on button of romantic love centres of brain and creates more and more new trust circuits in the brain for lover, hence making them completely blind to the mistakes of their beloved and this tendency, again according to the research by Helen Fisher, anthropologist at Rutgers university, is shown more in women than men.   

A friend of mine from college, who knew one of our senior from school days, ends up falling for him even though knowing he was not a right guy for her. That guy, who had a reputation of hitting on every other girl in the college, finding no response from any other girl, ultimately settles for her, after all guys believe that “bird in a bush is better than none.”

Moreover the girl was the only child of a rich that too well settled homoeopathic doctors family, was none other than a prize catch for that guy who was from middle class family and with no good grades in studies.

Although the girl being aware of guy old ways mistakenly thought that he must have changed and she ignored minor incidences happening in front of her as part and parcel of every guy’s decor. But she realized her blunder when she caught the guy full fledge cheating on her just couple of months back before they were to conjoined in holy connubial.

This came as a shock to whole family and when her eyes were open, it was too late. But still, as it is said, “Better be late than never”.

So girls, do not hug or do not let the guy hug you until you are gold slandered sure about the loyalty of the guy. It only takes twenty seconds to sweep you off the floor.

To be continued.......

Catch out in next series about the phrenology tips that you look in your beloved along with blunders committed by guys that reuine whole courtship game and tips for girls how to smile the way in guy’s heart. 

Check it out next week...............

“THE MAN WHO BECAME PREGNANT”

“THE MAN WHO BECAME PREGNANT”

Long Long back there was a Hollywood movie by name “Junior” in which the actor Arnold Schwarzenegger became pregnant. It started as an experiment on pregnant woman but since law deffer them to human   proving they couldn’t find one, therefore to prove their point; they fertilized an egg and a sperm in vitro and planted into the peritoneum [Abdomen] of the actor. The experiment was on short term basis, but the actor got under the influence of maternal hormones so much that he refused to get his pregnancy terminated, though under the risk of getting his peritoneum busted.

The whole movie revolve around depicting the pregnant man having all the physical symptoms that women have during pregnancy whether it be morning  sickness, increase in weight, frequent bathrooms breaks, mood swings, increased appetite and the babies kicks, etc,etc, For nine months.

Finally, in the end of the movie he does deliver a baby boy. The movie is hilarious and good to watch. Well, this is fiction. Does it happen in real life? Can the law of nature get reversed, male reproducing baby?

THE  TRIMESTERS  OF  PREGNANCY

A female patient of mine, one fine day, came to me with news that she is pregnant, and was running in her first trimester (first three months). The couple have been trying since a long time and finally God heard them, preparing to send them bundle of joy. She came to me complaining of morning sickness.

“Doc, I can’t stop vomiting my gut off”. Well it’s a usual thing in pregnancy. After taking the case, I prescribed her some medicine and she went away, only to return three days later. I was surprised, the medicine I gave never ever fails to work.

Well, after an initial inquiry, this time it was not her with vomiting troubling her but her husband was also suffering from same symptoms as her, Morning sickness, loss of appetite, increase vomiting. Okay, I said, took the case prescribed them and asked them to see me next week. I suspected food poisoning or stomach bug and I medicated him accordingly.

Next week, when they came to see me, the lady was perfectly fine, rowing delightfully her first trimester but the man look horrified. He must have lost two kilogram of weight in past seven days. His eyes were sunken and skin wrinkled. His vomiting has not stopped.

I was confused, what went wrong. I again took the case and again prescribed accordingly but this time for 4 days and asked him to see me thereafter. He followed the instruction, only to return more shrivelled.

What is wrong with me? I thought to be more particular about his condition, I wrote him few investigations two days later the reports came and they were crystal clean, yet no diagnosis.

He was distressed and I was confused. Half heartedly I prescribed him another medicine. Three visits and three prescriptions changed, not my style. He didn’t return for 15 days thereafter I thought maybe he got rid of his ailment but in hearts of hearts, I knew may be the things were not sunny as my mind wants me to believe. We doctors get that feeling if we are not sure about the prescription. [Well, it’s doctor’s thing. Our day also gets screwed up when our patient don’t return to us, smiling].

Fifteen days later, my worst fear came true. I was right it was not sunny. He went away to try allopathic treatment, but his nightmare continued. Our brethren allopaths were also so confused that they couldn’t stop man’s vomiting. They lost their patience early and wrote him an endoscopy, but the things became worse as soon as those camera stuck fibres were put into his mouth, he started to gag and wretch so indefinitely that ultimately the technician called off the day and asked him to come next morning.

It was too much for him to take and he returned to me, God, he had turned into a skeleton. Once such a robust man, now in complete misery but still intact charms as he joked, “I would die of this vomiting and you see, how embarrassing it seems for my army background family to tell that a man died in their family because of vomiting. You cured my wife, she didn’t vomit after that. It seems as if, instead of my wife, I am pregnant.”

As soon as he said the last couple of words, there rang a bell in my head and my pupils constricted. “What did you say, Sir?”

“It feels as if I am pregnant”. He said with an annoyance.

“Yes! You are”.

“What?” the annoyance increased. My eyes shined and I was not actually hearing him, the heavy cloud that was hovering over me, that I couldn’t help him, started to shead away and it became sunny again. This time with all the regained enthusiasm I prescribed him and confident enough that this will work. He trusted me though bewildered, took the medicine, only to return after two days.

COUVADE  SYNDROME      

I was surprised to see him back so early. My heart started to pound again. I asked him. “Well Doc! Your’s medicine work like a magic portion on me instantly stopping my vomiting. It went in and for last two days nothing is coming out from a wrong route. But,” there was still a “but”, I thought.

 He shrunked his eyebrows and said “I haven’t slept for two days; I want to clear things with you. See, with vomiting I could live throughout my life but with the news that I am pregnant.....”  He choked and couple of seconds reignited saying, “Am I seriously pregnant and therefore the medicine you gave me worked. You looked pretty serious last time on my joke”.

I was stunned first and then I laughed so hard, tears came out from corners of my eyes.

I didn’t want to increase the poor man’s misery, therefore I explained him that he was suffering from Couvade’s Syndrome or good Daddy Syndrone.

Couvade’s Syndrome, a common complaint of expectant dad’s upto 65% worldwide who share some symptoms of pregnancy with their partner. Researchers have found in such father there is 20% rise in their level of prolactin, the nurturing and lactation hormone. At same time their level of stress hormonal cortical doubles, increasing their sensitivity and alertness hence they start to suffer.

Testosterone (male hormone) suppresses maternal behaviour. In fathers who have Couvade’s Syndrome have high level of prolactin which decreases their testosterone level, hence improve their parental skills. Generally fathers are slower than mothers to respond to babies whimper but these man with transient lower testosterone with Couvade’s Syndrome hear babies cries better then moms.

MORAL

“To be a good Daddy, you should get high on female  hormones”.

CONUNDRUM CONNUBIAL?

              CONUNDRUM  CONNUBIAL ?

It is said marriage are made in heaven and if it is not cupid stuck affair, then the elders take the responsibility of hooking up the two strange souls. But there are certain rare cases where it status starts with a confusion and ends up being an enigma and no one realizes till the very end how and what happened.

NIGERIA   AND  INDIA

She is a middle class family eligible spinster and since for now, she was settled in her career as a school teacher, the only accolade left to achieve was suitable match to get hooked to.

Since there was no love affair she was involved in, so her parents found her a match through matrimonial services. But the only problem was that the boy was a NRI and was settled in Nigeria.

Nigeria wasn’t a dream country for the girl to settle and hence she refused in the beginning. Parents confronted her and with all the emotional blackmailing tact convinced her. Finally, she agreed to meet the boy who flew from Nigeria to India.

In boy girl meeting, the girl was really charmed by the boy. They were an instant hit couple. So, the things were fixed and the girl got ready to fly away to Nigeria. Things looked so simple and it seemed every block was falling into its right place.

But the date of the marriage according to astrological calculation was fixed next year. There were almost eleven months, the eleven months of distant courtship.

The boy flew back to Nigeria and girl stayed in India. Numbers were exchanged and God Bless internet, they chatted for long long hours, exchange of words lead to exchange of heart and therefore so called arrange connubial reformed itself in love story.

BUT  THE  STARS  INTERRUPTED

It was only four months left for the marriage date. Suddenly, on the connation of certain distant relative, the mother realized they haven’t got the bride and groom birth chart matched astrologically. So one fine day bride’s mother both charts and went to the astrologer.

What the astrologer told her, swept the flow beneath her feet. The boy turned out to be a “Manglik” , and the girl was “Non Manglik” , therefore this match was next to impossible.

There are few basic rules of astrology which everyone knows, when I say everyone it means even kids in India, and among them the most hyped one is Manglik can’t marry a non manglik, and much hyped consequences of suck match is either the couple will end up in a divorce or one of them would face an early death.

The girl mother came back crying. She was inconsolable. Hours later when she could catch her breath, she uttered out truth with sniffs and snobs.

It came as a shock for the whole family especially the girl. Now, the job of parents were to talk her out of this matrimony and again they tried to bring handy their emotional blackmail tool. But this time all their efforts turned futile as the girl had fallen head over heels in love with the guy and now he was not any other guy but the man of her dreams.

The girl confronted the guy with the truth on internet. At first he was also petrified but later on, like a hero of the story, asked her to trust him, he would definitely make all things right.

THE  BIG  PLAN

Parents were trying to break it and the children were trying to fix it. It was nothing more than a tug of war. But parents were bit relaxed as they know that it was a long distant thing and it would take time to heal the broken heart. They were counting upon the “doctor time” but they didn’t know that the time actually was skipping like sand, between their fingers. The couple had a plan. Just 15 days before the expected date of the marriage the boy flew back from Nigeria and the girl went out on context of going for job, met at certain time and place and then went straight away to the court and legally got married. They asked their best friends to witness it and finally after one year of courtship they were able to stamp their relationship with marriage. It started at as arrange, intermediates as love affair and finally ended as runaway marriage.

Both families were shocked and now they could do nothing, ultimately in a consensus decision they conducted a big party on the behalf of their marriage and invited all their relatives. Hence they finally had a chance to start their happy ever after.

PHRENOLOGY OF UPPER LIP

·        The center of upper lip and scallop like a bow beside it.

·        The redness and fullness of upper lip.

MORAL

 “Love finds out its way.”

                  

      

GHOST OF HOUSE NO.43

           GHOST OF HOUSE NO.43

'IT'S IN WIND'

For centuries the topic about the existence of Ghost or supernatural things haves been a topic of discussion which takes have exchange of prolific words but still not reaching any consensus conclusion. Even it has become a, showbiz business market, and the TRP of such supernatural phenomenon entertainment are always sky high. But on serious note, let me again incite the age old question, are there Ghosts, spirits that processes, or exorcism is sharman’s gimmick for gullible people or it’s a science unexplored.

THE GIRL WITH RIGHT RENAL STONE

It’s been three years since have been suffering from atrocious pain radiating from her RIGHT flank to the pubic symphisies, and every time the pain gets incited the only way to relieve it was pumping in two or three voveron injections. It was way before meeting me. Now, she is in more stable condition and for this she thanks me along with the Swamiji of the temple near her house.

So, here it is how it all begins. Many years back they shifted into this house and then suddenly, like it was bound to happen, the members of the family started to get sick. First her grandmother (who was 80 yrs old) got sick and then died, then the mother (who was suffering from severe Vit B12 and calcium deficiency, diagnosed with osteoporosis) got a slip disc which render her bed ridden for almost a year. Her grandfather suddenly had a drastic change in his behaviour (you call it old age as he was approaching 90 or was taking dozens of meds for his heart, blood pressure, liver and asthmatic ailments) from a calm man to the one who lost patience on drop of hat.

This continued for a while and then the final blow came when the girl was diagnosed with renal stone, taking breath away pain. At that time also they were running from doctors to doctors, it never occurs to them they were under the curse of the house and they should approach any spiritual Guru to get their ailment remedied.

THE REVEALATION OF CURSE OF THE HOUSE NO.43

One day, there was a religious ceremony going on in neighbourhood. A Swamiji from nearby temple was invited, but as soon he crossed the house no.43, he stopped. He felt the environment was too heavy. He wanted to move on but couldn’t, there was something inside him asking him to ring the bell of the house. So he did and confronted the family of the house. First they thought he have confused about the house number, where he was suppose to go but when they came to know the actual reason, the earth skipped under their feet.

According to Swamiji, the house was haunted by a spirit who is so much attached to this house no.43. Many years back this house belonged to her and even after death she couldn’t bring herself to get detach from this house. She have already cause much trouble to it’s already occupants and she is still berserk.

The head of the family thought that Swamiji was just trying to scare them. Deaths and diseases do occur in every household.  But he didn’t want to be disrespectful to Swamiji, so he heard him patiently and when he offered his help, he politely refused. Swamiji went away.

The lady of the house became seared and started worshipping God and Goddess more vigorously. Couple of days later the girl again got her severe renal colic attack. She was rushed to nearby nursing home, where she was injected with high dose of vovron. She came back home, went into her room and slept in her bed. Couple of hours later when she woke up, she saw a vague figure of women dressed in a burkha (Mohamddan dress) only her eyes which were red shot, visible in the dress. The woman raised a finger towards her and said, “I will take you with me, definitely. Whatever you do won’t stop me” and then she started laughing. The girl was shocked, her throat choked and it took her great deal of time, gathering all her courage and to run to other room where her mother was sitting. She started crying as soon as she saw her mother. She told her everything.

Her mother became worried and when her father came home she talked to him about the day events. Her father sweeps it off calling it the effect of tranquilizer which personified the Swamiji words into real figure. It’s just the astray chemicals of her brain and nothing else. He talked the whole family out of superstition.

Since that day the girl started to have hallucination that someone was following her, someone was seeing her when she is sleeping. At night she started to see shadows. But her father ignored it. The only time that got his concern was that when the locked doors of his house were found opened without any break in. That night they could hear the door slamming open, but when they got up to check, no one was found. Since that day girl’s grandfather became very sick and apart from earlier behaviour shunt, started doing awkward and strange activities.

Next day the whole family rushed to the Swamiji with their complaint and seek his help. Swamiji had a very strange way of detecting the ghost effect. He smelled the family member hands and said the ghost have best affiliation towards the girl. Her perfumes attract her.

THE EXCORSISM

Swamiji gave the family do’s and don’ts list like the girl was prohibited to put henna designs, nail paint and perfumes, she was asked to read “Hanuman Chalisa”{Holy book to glorify Lord Hanuman}. All the members of family were advised to read “Bhagvad Gita” and to chant one whole rosary beads of Hare Krsna Mahamatra. Along with all these precautions, the girl was asked to come to the temple where he sat, for forty days to complete process of exorcism.

RETURN OF THE SPIRIT OF HOUSE NO.43

For last one year she has improved a lot. She went back to her jolly self fearlessly. She is twenty two now and her parents have fixed her marriage to a guy in Ludhiana. She is about to get married this november, but suddenly their happiness got a sudden halt. Again strange things started to happen, starting from detorating health condition of his grandfather and his ultimate demise and return of her colicky pains and hallucinations.

The time again they went rushing to the Swami. Swamiji smelled her hand and said that spirit have returned again. The smell of henna on her hands attracted her to return. This henna design she applied on her ring ceremony. This time Swamiji was more worried, getting married with a ghost haunting her would, lead to a lifelong bond with her and therefore he came up with more rigorous exorcism procedure. She is asked to chant series of Mantras and various holy threads are tied on her all limbs along with she is asked to wear Iron bangle to keep the spirit away.

Until recently what I came to know that she is improving.

HYPOTHESIES -:

Our brains have various parts like prefrontal cortex, Hypothalamus, Amygdales etc.

Prefrontal cortex along with other part from the conscious brain which decipher between what is right and wrong, what is real and what is fake and moreover it keeps the brake over the amygdale and hypothalamus which from the part of subconscious brain generating whimsical fantasies, dreams, delusions and wild thoughts. Maybe the sedative effect of pain killer, diluted the bridle of her conscious mind over the subconscious one and the words of Swamiji that were stored in her hypothalamus personified into hallucination which she considered real and finally triggered the series of her affair with the spirit.

Well I have just given a hypothesis, the real question still remains. It is just the chemical misbalance of unlocked doors of her subconscious mind or the House No.43 is really haunted by a ghost?

PHRENOLOGY OF FAITH

                    i.            Outer corner of the eyes dipping downward.

                 ii.            Fuller lips

              iii.            Presence of fats at the cheek

               iv.            Protruding ears

MORAL

There is only one power and that is power of almighty and we should all bow to it.

   

                      

   

  

“EKLO CHALO RE” (YOU HAVE TO WALK ALONE)

            “EKLO CHALO RE” (YOU HAVE TO WALK ALONE)

“The general image of women is that of doll of clay, casts in the modes of docility and passivity, embellished to be an object of an entertainment and tamed to be a self abnegating wife and mother”; these were the lines of my debate, long back in 2001, on some topic about status quo of the women. These lines I copied from some article in a random magazine and learned it by heart. Though I was only limited to the consolation prize in that debate, but those lines have stayed with me ever since and now after all these years I am re-using it again to do a little reality check over the status quo of women of today.

THE SPECIAL GIRL

She always wanted to be a nurse and serve the humankind, but before she could get enrolled for nurse training course, her parents decided her to get married and without any revolt, she did got married. It was not like choking her desires and succumbing to parents’ wishes but the typical woman’s adoption to any given situation, all she wanted was peace.

There is a very fascinating story about her birth and it yearned years before she opened her eyes in this world which she at first thought was amazing.

It so happened, her mother had one more elder sister. When there was a groom searching for elder sister, at that particular time she was diagnosed with breast cancer, though it was at very early stage, the surgical excision and few sittings of chemotherapy totally cured her but it took quite a deal of time, till then her age (according to Indian standard) took a toll and she lost interest in the institution called marriage. Seeing her lonely life, her younger sister promised her that she would give her, her first born child.

Years later, when a girl was born to the younger sister, she kept her promise and the elder sister legally adopted her. And since then the protagonist of this story was pampered by two mothers, her all wishes were fulfilled before she could utter them. The world was the most amazing place for the little girl.

Years passed, she was fully content with twenty two years that she stayed on the earth. Now she wanted to pay back and hence wanted to join the nursing course, but her biological father found her a match. She agreed without hassle.

The boy was native of Bihar, with high qualification, he was a lawyer and his family legacy had many I.S officers, doctors and lawyers.

Such a highly qualified family, in their caste, moreover astrologically a perfect match, every block was filled perfectly. It seemed as if the girl was born with a golden luck. The only one thing was particular in  the case was the age difference between the couple that was seven years which was rarely an issue for the family as the boy was handsome and look younger to his age.

The girl’s foster mother put all her life savings into her marriage and it was conducted with lot of pomp and show. A huge amount of dowry was give. The girl was covered in gold and then delivered to her in-laws house.

Well, the girl could have her happily ever after since then but sometimes destiny takes a U-turn and then starts the process of reversal of fortune.

REVERSAL OF FORTUNE

It was only two months she have been married. The whole mirage of the highly qualified family broke loose in front of her. Once considered so open minded family turned out to be the bigots and orthodox Hippocrates of the society.

There were two rape cases running on his father-in-law and her sister-in-law had wrongly filed a case of dowry harassment on her husband.

Her mother-in-law was such a stingy lady that she kept so many boundations on her. And her so handsome husband was no support to her. It turned out that she was the second wife to her husband who was previously divorced and the age gap between them was almost fifteen years. The girl’s family was fooled into holy matrimony.

She ignored all the facts and tried to adjust. But when the tyrannies of her mother-in-law and violence by her husband became the regular routine, she revolted back. She was tried to subdue but this time she was not going to bend and hence returned home. She left all her dowry over there, jewellery in bank lockers under the name of her in-law, so was the money and returned empty handed and filed a divorce petition in Delhi court.

This was too much to take for her adoptive mother. She went into depression and her once cured cancer returned back in full blown from. This time it was so furiously that in couple of months, rot her to her core and she finally gave up to it.

This was the roughest patch of the girl’s life, she returned to her original family and to her utter surprise they were not very supportive. They want her to take the case back and to return to the home of in-laws. They even told that because of her, the future of her younger siblings have been jeopardized as her act had brought bad name to the family.

She was aghast at her family reaction. That night she cried a lot. She was left lonely in this whole world, and the only person who could stand for now was she herself. With those teary eyes and broken heart, she decided that she won’t let go it like that. She will give it a fight, even if she has to do it all alone.

She took admission in the law course in Delhi University with the money her adopted mother left for her and at time carried on with the court case against her husband. Her so called family didn’t supported her at all except giving her place to live and food to eat. None of them walked with her during the hearings in the court moreover continued building the pressure over her to withdraw.

I’M NOT GOING TO BOW KNESS!

It’s been 3 years since her case is going on. Since the other party is too influential, therefore the judgment is being delayed and the case is lingering on. But she have not left hope and still fighting. Now, she has quite a good deal of knowledge about the law therefore carrying on her fight.

Mean while she is also preparing herself for various job related entrance exams as well as found her a good boyfriend through jeevansathi.com. He knows everything about her and as soon as she will get her divorce, they plan to marry.

It’s still a long road to go and she doesn’t intend to give up in midway. She walked alone to whole way and now she is confident she can walk alone ahead too

HAT’S OFF TO HER COURAGE!

PHERNOLOGY OF COURAGE

·        Proper formation of musculature of body

·        Sharp features

·        Proper developed Alae Nasi (Nastril)

·        Well formed respiratory system.

·        Strong and well placed Neck.

·        Sharp vision.

MORAL

“The rule of life is always ‘move  on’. If you can’t fly, then run, if you can’t run, then walk, if you can’t walk, then crawl. But,  just move on.”