POST VALENTINE HANGOVER.

                    ONCE SMITTEN, TWICE SHY. . .

In blogs of last two week we talked about the Valentine Alerts, but now, since the Valentine time is just over, there is the residue of it left, whether the good memories or the bad shock or just the POST VALENTINE HANGOVER.

Today we will deduce through logic the revelation for the following song,

“Last Christmas, I gave you my heart. The very next day, you gave it away. This year, I’ll give it to special one. Once Smitten, Twice Shy…”

MY FIRST TIME…

“He was too good to be true and I just feel for him. You know just slipping away, very very slippery. . .” These are the words of the Arts Post Graduate girl when she told me about her first love.

She met him through a common friend. He had all those traits that she ever desired in her guy to have. She chanted for all those qualities in her man and suddenly it seemed like all her prayers were getting answered.

One accidental brush with her dream boy lead to second rendezvous and then the third and finally ending up in, Courtship Ocean.

 “Every stolen moment seemed as adrenaline rush, straight from bottom of heart, it was butterflies all around and a pair of white dove beaming each other…”

She felt more responsible and caring for him as recently his mother died because of cancer.

The bliss run for six months and finally after running it course it faded away in oblivion. She came to know that her dream guy was not being exclusively her.

He was screwing around with three more girls. Not only that, he was sleeping with a divorced lady with a kid. She has been waiting like mad for him to take the relationship to next level.

My girl was heartbroken. It was all thanks to her brother who wore the cap of Sherlock Holmes, to dig deep and brought forward that revelation.

SIX MONTHS OF SELF HEALING THERAPY

She indulged herself in work. Running from pillar to posts she tried very hard to shove of all the feelings for her “very first time” guy.

The fate had something gift wrapped for her. God bless Face-book, she met a guy, who happened to be two years junior at school but still honored a deep crush for her since then.

Again an accidental touch and go, at the face-book lead to second time abrupt talk and finally emptying into ocean of never ending fables from both sides. Her second guy didn’t wasted much time and skipping all levels of courtship went straight on his knees. She was speechless and he was splendid.

WHAT AN IRONARY?

CREDENTIALS of SECOND GUY were absolute match to the matrimonial advertisements. He was absolutely not a guy to be refused, but the girl had doubts.

He was a family man with on expanding business, good money in his accounts, Rolex on his hands and Audi Q8 under his ass. Moreover he wanted to take girl to meet his family.

After all what a girl wants more?

But she has her own doubts… “Love is not an assets view form” It is…” she is still speechless.

To practical eyes like me or her parents or her Sherlock Holmes brother it is perfectly solved calculus.

But still she was taking her time to say “yes” or in case, come up with an answer.

PHRENOLOGICAL ADVICE

Ref. by phrenological hints given in blogs “The Game Of Courtship” series.

MORAL

‘You can’t live in your present with past shadowing around you.’  

valentine alert part 2

SILLY GIRL SYNDROME – CASE STUDIES

Last week we studied about SGS. Today we will into the case study of the syndrome depending upon the severity of the extent of pathology from mild to moderate and finally terminal cases.

CASE STUDY - 1 

SUBJECT - Twenty four years old female working in an IT firm.

PRESENTING COMPLAINT- Had fallen for a looser.

HISTORY OF PRESENTING COMPLAINT- The boy started as the crying shoulder when she was first ditched by her boyfriend. His sweet talks and so called unconditional support lured her into his love trap. They went strong for a while till the boy shifted back to his native town. The long distance relationships brings problem with them. The patent problems but the girl held the fort strong to prove the above statement wrong, but was astonished by the sudden change of his tone. He only picked her call when he was melancholic or absorbed in self-loathing. More often leave aside, calling her, he would not answer her calls or message her back, even for months, keeping his girl wondering what went wrong between them and drawing a big question mark to their relationship.

SIGNS- Acne Roscoe (whenever stressed, face filled with pustuler, red eruptions)

SYMPTOMS

-          Confusion

-          Self-talking

-          Melancholy

-          Bruised ego

-          Feeling of insecurity that she screwed up

-          Still after all this, she still considers him the knight in the shining armor.

SCALE OF SEVERITY

Though mild in nature, but recurrence of the attack could worsen the prognosis of the case.

PREVENTION AND TREATMENT

-          Move on with life

-          Set a goal

-          Kicking a looser out of her life

-          Temporarily abstaining for falling again for a while

-          Learning and mastering the game of courtship (for help can refer my courtship series)

PROGNOSIS

Good

CASE STUDY 2

SUBJECT - Thirty six years old married women and mother of two kids.

PRESENTING COMPLAINTS – Married a jerk.

HISTORY OF PRESENTING COMPLAINTS – She belonged to a very rich and influential family, but ended up doing a rookie mistake that girls of age eighteen do. Finally in with the “RICKSHAW VALLA”

[Note = Rickshaw valla is a broad term relating to socially unsuitable match, at same time meaning no offense to actual rickshaw valla]

In this case the man was 10 years elder to her and worked on the meager salary on the post of accountant in her father’s shop. She ran away with the man taking away all her jewellery and married him in the temple. When they were caught, they took the help of cops, claiming to be above legal age to take her decision and marry. All the strings with her patriarchal family were disconnected.  The sunshine in their life existed till they had the girl’s money. After that her life has been hell with frequent abuses and domestic violence.

SIGNS

Stress related early OA changes [osteo- arthritis] of lower back.

SYMPTOMS

-          Self loathing

-          Weeping

-          Feeling of aloneness

-          No backup plan

-          Finding difficult to tolerate low thresh-hold of husband’s ego

SCALE OF SEVEARITY = Oscillate between MODERATE TO SEVEAR

TREATMENT AND MANAGEMENT

-          To have good friends

-          Look for a job to be self dependent

-          Get attach with NGO

-          Hunt out possibilities to reach back to her parents

-          Counseling

PROGNOSIS- Only to prevent progression of pathology.

Case study 3

SUBJECT= Twenty three old female of a very financially compromised family, but by grace of god, got a solid lift in the job market due to strong academic front, in a very high paying job.

PRESENTING COMPLAINT = Trusting a monster

HISTORY OF PRESENTING COMPLAINT =She fell flat lined for a guy in her office who lured her with her sweet talks. He kept on pursuing her to take the relationship to the next level. First she avoided but later on she feared to loose the love of her life, she summed to his demands and lost her V-CARD [virginity] to him. Later on she came to know that the guy was married and he already had played the same game with many girls. She ever took a further step confronting his wife and her all about her dealings. But to her utter surprise, his wife already knew about his mistress and gave damn about them, till he is taking care of her and her kid’s expenses. She even said that only she is entitled as his wife and other women are just like use and throw toilet papers.

SIGN- Served hymen. Running extra shifts to save money for re-construction of hymen,  cosmetic surgery to get her V-Card back.

SYMPTOMATOLOGY

-          Self guilt

-          Self loathing

-          Confusion

-          Anger, frustration and irritation

-          Loss of concentration towards her job

-          Suicidal thoughts

SCALE OF SEVERITY = SEVERE

TREATMENT AND MANAGEMENT

-          Counseling

-          To hold back together

-          Set a goal

-          Revenge by living her life perfectly fine

-          Learning the game of courtship

-          Learning from past mistake and not to fall in vicious circle of Love, Sex and Dhoka.

-          Finding her a Right guy may be through matrimonial services.

PROGNOSIS- Totally dependent on the management of the case. Though a well managed case could give a good life expectancy or if not taken care with cautiousness, it can turn lethal.

VALENTINE'S ALERT- SILLY GIRL SYNDROME

THE MESSY HEART

SILLY GIRLS SYNDROME

VULNERABLE AGE= 14 years to 23 years (Though can be found in age above 23, but most occurrence happen in mention above slot)

INITIAL ONSET- Initial onset is characterized by excessive mood swings along with excessive day dreaming. A big share of waking hours is spend on grooming preening.

GENDER- Most common in females (that every second females can have SGS) but symptoms also seen in effeminate and heterosexual boys. 


FULL BLOWN SYMPTEMATOGLOY

Having mean girl traits of jealousy and rivalry with the peer.

Concocting fantasies

Die heart crush on actors, cricketers or hot boy next door.

Severe mood swings

Favorite cuisine includes chocolates, chocolates and chocolates

Falling in love at drop of hat on the extent, can share boyfriend with other girl

Excessively demanding

Frequently getting ditched by same guy again and again and still end up falling for him

Choice of songs range Britney, Shakira to ghazals of Jagjit Singh

Think themselves to epic drama queen

DIFFERENTIAL DIAGNOSIES

SGS can be confused with other syndromes like:

-          Love at blink syndrome

-          Mean girls syndrome

-          Falling for wrong guy syndrome

-          Post break up depression syndrome

-          Obesity syndrome

Though all the syndromes look similar on bird eye view, but there are intricate details that distinguish them from each other.

PROGNOSIES

The consequences of such cases are as follows:-

1.      In case if it is diagnosed at initial stage the pathology can be reversed. Prophylactic treatment in such cases is :

a.       Counseling.

b.      Shopping.

c.       Group talks which include bonding with other girls who have priorly suffered from SGS.

d.      Gossiping.

e.       Frequent Chocolate Breaks.

In the worst case scenario the pathology metastases to the whole body. Either it could lead to misery whole life syndrome or step forward to the most fatal and leathel diagnosis.

2.      LSD Syndrome- Love, sex and dhoka syndrome.

3.      The disease can terminate into either loosing mental syndrome or suicide.

Life Expectancy- varies in different cases, depending upon the severity of the disease.

MEDICAL ADVICE= Prevention is better than cure.

PHRENOLOGY TRAITS

     - Big eyes with outer corners dropping down.

    - Fuller lips

    - Round ears

APPEARANCE TRAITS

-          Maintained figure.

-          Bulimic tendencies.

-          Groomed appearance- updated fashion sense.

-          Everyday dressing up as if Diwali.

CHECK OUT THE CASE PROFILES NEXT WEEK.