THE GAME OF COURTSHIP Series- 3 HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED BY BOTH PLAYERS

                                             THE GAME OF COURTSHIP

                                                               Series- 3

                 HOW THE GAME IS PLAYED BY BOTH

                                            PLAYERS  

Earlier two blogs I have already discussed men and women preferred targets and pros and cons related to the selection. But once the eagle have spotted it’s prey, how to reach it and grab it is a total calendestine manevaur, surpetiously executed.

IS IT REALLY THE BLIND LOVE?

MODUS OPREND!

It seems on the face value that the courtship process is started by the men, but it is not true. It is just the flames we see. The real fire is ignited by the women. It is a five steps process.

Step I - The women spots the man that suits her whims and fancies she gaze towards him till he notices her and then for approximately for 5 more seconds she holds that gazes and then turns away. The man becomes confused, so now he keeps watching her to see if she repeats it again. Averagely the women have to do it at least 3 or 4 times before an average man could understand what exactly is happening. If the gazing and eye contact process increases couple of more times, it marks the beginning of flirting games.

Step II - Now after having her man’s attention, she would give a quick half smile which is a green signal for man to approach, but unfortunately men are not good at reading these signals, hence they give it a pass. Hence the whole courtship mission is aborted at level 2 but few smart men do reach level 3.

Step III - If the man is still confused whether or not to approach the lady. The women still gives them plenty amount of hints. Only smart brains can read it and make moves, the other are nothing more than dead brains. She adorns herself and shows off her beast features. She tries to sit straight with parallel legs or if she is standing she would give a pelvic tilt. She will start grooming herself. [Detail gestures would be delt later in this blog later]. The smart brain men, after decoding this matrix, would reacting by standing up straight,  chest out and stomach in position, would groom themselves by adjusting his coat, touching his hairs and tuckling his thumbs into his belt and then slowly and slowly move towards the lady in question.

Step IV - The best approach to break the ice between the two attractive strangers is, to talk, which starts with a tailor made sentences and then convert to usual conversation. A little chit-chat is always a good idea.     

Step V - Between the conversation women look for an opportunity to initiate a light touch, which may at first appear accidental. A hand touch shows great level of intimacy. And then she frequently repeats it to check out whether or not other person is happy. An example of soft touch could be a quick handshake too.

DECODING WOMEN COURTSHIP SIGNALS

Women have many arrows that she one by one, put her on the arch and bombard target men with. But since men are testosterone high, reading, seeing and understanding these courtship rituals becomes very very difficult for them. They mistake friendliness or smiling for sexual interest as they see the world in terms of sex and blow up their chances for TRUE LOVE.

On other hand, women though acquainted with so many tricks in their box fail to attract the men of their choice and end up being disappointed thinking that he may not be interested. SO, here I tried to decode common courtship rituals, which are so hard wired in female brain that they are either used consciously or unconsciously.

Here are the most awaited, RULES OF THE GAMES, BOYS,

[Caution: Keep your-cards close to the heart, not just see but watch the moves and then play your cards right, if you WANT TO WIN]

Here is what women do, when she is in vicinity of the man she fancies.

1.      She would flick the head sideways or back and fondle with hairs tossing them hence forth. She becomes cautions about her looks and she want to present her perfectly.

2.     She would wet her lips either with saliva or lip gloss and there would be pouting of lips [like famous Angelina Joli Pouting]. This gives her seductive looks. And to enhance its effect, she reddens them with lipsticks.

 [Fact- use of lipstick is an Egyptian trend which became viral all over the world to give women her famous seductive aura].

3.     If the woman is more lethally attracted to her male counterpart, more intimate level of courtship would be self-touching. She would softly touch or stroke her thigh, neck or throat. This is one of the green light signals for the men that if they put things in the right block they would get the opportunity to touch women on those places.

4.     Another green light signal is her playing with the cylindrical or phallic shaped objects like dangling earrings, cigarette, her fingers, etc. This shows level of intimacy she want to go in the relationship.    

5.     A limp wrist shows the submissive signal exclusively used by women to seek attention of the males as they get an opportunity to dominate them.

6.     Stealing glances over the raised shoulder brings the mysterious aura to the women. The raised shoulder represents her curvy body and gazing and then stealing it away attracts the men’s attention.

7.     Exposing the soft under skin of the wrist is also crystal signal for men to approach the women. Though this signal is not properly understood that weather it is inborn signal or properly practiced one, but it clears all the perils in man’s flabbergasted brain and indicates the clear route, it could be either done by the help of props like pen, cigarette or stick of the eye glasses or shades glasses.

8.     Accentuating the hips by highlighting the pelvic region through stilettos, rolling hips while walking and giving a pelvic tilt while standing all brings in limelight her standards in front of target men, as the healthy women who could take the responsibility of bearing his child and hence conserving his genes, which he is very proud of. So no prizes for guessing, why cat walk is so famous among the man.

9.      When one leg is twinkled under the knee points out towards the man of her like. This cools down the formality out of the conversation and brings a friendlier aura between the two. Hence mark the beginning of closeness between them.

10. Another relaxed gesture is dangling of her shoes in her feet or thrashing her foot in and out of the shoes. With reasons not explained this gestures unconsciously unsettles the men and give him indication that he have stepped into higher level of the game.

11.  Women’s handbags have been always considered in the realms of unsolved mystery by even the smartest man. They dare not touch it, leave inside peeping inside it. Since this intimate object is, so intimate for the women that it is considered as the personal extension of her body. Therefore during a conversation if it is kept in close vicinity of the man, so that he could touch or see it indicated emotional vicinity.  Near the bag to men, easier it becomes to reach the target for men. Farer the bag goes, the mission seems to become impossible for them.

12. Women while drawing the attention of the men have a very patent sitting gesture where one leg presses over the other giving an appearance of leg twin. It shows her muscle tone and it is most appealing gesture as rated by men.  

Hence, I have completed twelve zodiac rituals by women. So boys, be smart, don’t only see them but read them to play your game well.

MEN’S COURTSHIP SIGNALS

Male on other hand have very crystal clear signals which are not at all subtle. Their Rituals unlike women are very very loud.

Since it have been priorly elicite couple of times before. That men look for attractive women and on other hand women give priority to the credentials of the male, their status, education, earning capacity and etc.ect. Therefore male courtship revolves around show off of POWER WEALTH AND STATUS.

Apart from talking about their cars, house, other luxurious things in their possessions, they also love getting into challenges with their peer to display this power. Now-a-days, men have also become self-obsessed about their looks, hence the males have revolutionalized themselves into Metro-sexual males copying female style of manicures, pedicures, waxing, colouring their hairs, having cosmetic facial surgeries, hair transplantation, etc. There are no doubt salons and gyms are emerging as great money generating ventures.  

 

MALE REACTION IN FRONT POTENTIAL TARGET [PREENING GESTURES]

As soon as the male spots his target and get ready to approach her, these are the things preceding it. He will straighten his dress including tie, collar and shirt and coat and would brush off imaginary dust off their clothes.

LITTLE TRICK THAT ALWAYS WORK FOR MEN TO WOO A WOMEN

The magic trick for women is her sideways upward looking innocent and child like smile, that’s men’s personal favourite. Same way smart men have their personal magic trick which is very famous among the women is TALKING. They would talk for hours and hours and in great length about intimate details of his or her life and win bonus points in relationship. For women., talking is like a way to reduce her stress and when she indulge in such a activity, it gives her eternal happiness and she starts to trust the other guy as talking increases oxytocine hormone in her body which builds new trust circuits in her brain and at same time shutting down critical censor circuits. Men would deliberately deepen their voice while talking women as it again displays their macho power.

Unfortunately, this talking only continues only in courtship period. Once he gets the woman and marries her, the men gears back to monosyllabic and taciturn mode, hence this is the commonest complain of most of women about their husband. For men, “talking” is only their courtship charm.

BIGGEST BLUNDER MEN DO WHILE COURTING A WOMEN

Crotch adjust is biggest male’s blunder. To display their crotch by thumb in belt gesture while standing or spreading their legs while sitting in a chair, wearing a tight fitting pants or dangling the car keys near the belt socket, is one of their masculine trait. But it is really horrified when during a conversation; suddenly and unconsciously the men reach out for their crotch adjusts it or start to handle it. And it enhances their horror many folds when men with same hand with which he had earlier adjusted his crotch then proceeds to get her a drink or greats people with hand shake. This is a common complaint of women all over the world.

Therefore it is a strict No-No in front of women. After all they get lot of time adjusting their crotch when they are among their competitors to show off their masculinity example a very common scene in the cricket field apart from batting, bowling and fielding.

CONCLUSION

Since women are the one who trigger the courtship process, hence the rules of the games are made and controlled by them. They have the upper hand in it. For men, they need to decode it properly to play their cards well so that they could ultimately end up in WIN-WIN situation irrespective of the fact being manipulated.

Though it is initiated by females but the men can decide how it ends which totally rely on how well he plays. So, always keep your hopes high and always believe that there is going to be a God send person for you in this world, maybe right now, in the room you are sitting and reading my blog, all you need is a keen vision and prudent mind to spot it and woo it.

Therefore, BEST OF LUCK!

To be continued.........

Next week catch up the final instalment of THE GAME OF COURTSHIP, THE BREAK-UP. See how it starts, how it runs it is course and finally how it terminates breaking hearts.

Check it out next week....

THE GAME OF COURTSHIP Series- 2 {Courtship: PHRENOLOGY TIPS AND OH BOY!}

                                             THE GAME OF COURTSHIP

                                                                 Series- 2

     Courtship: PHRENOLOGY TIPS AND OH BOY!

FIND THE MOON.....

Phrenology is the science of face reading. According to it, face is like a coded message of what is going inside the occults of brain. If we decode this matrix, accurately we can hit a gold mine in a relationship. Hear are the things that you need to check out before falling for a pretty and handsome face.

1.       Inverted pyramidical face is a strict No- No. Inverted pyramid are faces where the head in broad and tapers down to thin and pointed chin. These are very shrewd people who are genetically hard wired to save their skin in any damn situation even at expense of anyone.

2.     Broad forehead and prominent architect temporal eminence are the people of “Einstein Species”, they are very intelligent in academic fields and sometimes blessed with worldly wisdom (for which see another demarkers on the face also).

3.     Eyebrows: Good bushy eyebrows indicate youth, very high raised eyebrows which seem like dividing the forehead equally in two halves shows a very indescesive personality, immature people.

4.     EYES : Small eyes, which seem still shut, when they are broadly open are licentious eyes [or in the delhi lingo “tharkey eyes”] – They won’t ever-ever be loyal. Any chance to escape into another relationship, they are first to go.

Big and bright eyes are immediate “Yes-Yes”. Laughter Lines at the outer corner of eyes indicate the humour side of the person.

5.     Nose should be of good length along with properly formed alae nasi [nostrils].

-         Excessive long and thin nose- cleanliness freak along with fear of disease.

-         Small and little upturned nose- egoistic, bluntly uptight, opinionated prejudice people.

-         A dent in the septum of nose [the bridge that joint tip of nose to the upper lip] shows melancholic & depressive people. {they are also the people with weak liver and suffer from its problems in future}

-         Convex shape of the nose [as appreciated from the lateral view] executive people nose who are born leader

-         And parrot Beak nose [again appreciated from lateral view]-are good thespian and great entertainer.

6.     Full moist lips, apart from indicating good digestive along with reproductive systems also indicate loving, caring and benevolent trails, whereas pinched and small lips would broadly show the selfish and self centred qualities.

7.       Smile: A tight lipped smile is the secretive smile, as if the information is being with healed from you. Smile should always show the pearly teethes as it generates trust in the brain of onlooker.

8.     Cheeks: Gullotonouse cheeks or the hefty cheeks just dropping like a meat loaf on the face are definitely a No, apart from feeding their belly, they have ulterior purpose in life is to by hook or crook get on top, get the wealth and for that they sink their morals in deep blue sea.

Witch Cheeks: High placed, bulgy upper cheeks, vicinity of eyes-their world starts with friendship and peer group and ends there. They can be your best friend but in relationship it is a 50-50  game.  

9.     Dimples: Dimples do cause leathel attraction but here is the actual truth about them. Dimples on cheeks indicate want of appreciation and praise. They are little self obsessed people who always crave lime light. Dimple on the chin indicates aristocratic taste, they are people with brands and beauty around them they are very specific about their choices.

10.  Chin: Small chin tapering chin: Indicates poor filtering systems of body that is kidneys [not good functioning kidneys] hence impure blood cause low moralistic people.

Excessive protruding chin- Obstinate, Orthodox people

Receding Chin- Indescesive people

A GOOD CHIN should be broad with slight protrudences.

11.   Double Chin: A Small dewlap (skin hanging) everyone have under their chin indicating the trait of “savings for future” but if this dewlaps hangs down [like the cow’s dewlaps] or in other words heavy double chin, you have come across a very miser and niggerlined person.

12.  Ears: Ears should be round and well placed.

-         Protruding ears are of superstitious and indescesive people.

-         Long ears are scientific and brainy people.

Like twelve Zodiac signs, I have broadly demarked twelve zodiac of facial anatomy and you got to make your pick. And very confidently, I can say, maximum numbers of girls are going to listen to me and in rarest phenomenon the boys. And if I find the reason for it, it all cut short to one hormone, Testosterone. Oh Boy!

OH BOY!

Before I decipher the boy’s neurochemistry let me start with two real life stories and everything I want to say would be well evident.

STORY 1 -This boy as soon as he reached the senior classes in school suddenly felt a dire need to make a girlfriend. For that he worked really very diligently in gyms and after 6 months of pumps up and push ups, he finally got his macho entry in date market.

The only credential he was looking forward was the beauty and attraction quotient after all he was looking just for a fling, not to settle down with her. And finally he was able to woo the girl with such a resume.

He was the happiest guy on the face of earth as his peer got jealous of him because he had such a hot girl friend.

Three months later he was running away from his beautiful girlfriend. The girl made his made his life a living hell. Under that beautiful skin there was an emotionally needy girl, who wanted presence of her boyfriend all the time. She was so insecure. When boy came to know about her real colours, he tried to break off every tie with her, but it was not easy.

She invaded his home, created a big scene in his neighbourhood. Boy suffered the greatest misery of his life [details of which have been, already told in my blog Rancore] he was so petrified that only way out was to run away and he executed his only option. He studied so hard and finally clicked an entrance exam of engineering, though he was getting an admission in good collage in his hometown but he opted for another for away collage. Look the hostel facility and in four years of his engineering course rarely returned to his home town. Once so macho guy now harboured such a fear from that beautiful girl.

Here is story Number Two....

Running parallel to its line, this boy completed his civil engineering with good grades and subsequently established business as a builder. Beginner’s luck shined over him and in a year was able to make lot of money. This family started a bride hunt for him. Girls after girls he rejected on the basis of beauty. It was almost 2 years his family brought him a suitable watch and he kept on rejecting, until one day he came across one very beautiful tall girl. He finally agreed to meet her. This family was happy.

He met her, talked to her and then like it was expected said, “Yes”. The family met the girl, talked to her but this time on contrary, family wanted to reject her but since it was first time the boy have said, the family sealed their lips.

They had six months of courtship before the marriage date. In those six months they met six times and each time they end up fighting. Boy ignored it when she talked about her opinion about nuclear family, boy ignored it when she talked about how she do not like kids and he ignored lots of thing in that courtship which he realizes now after getting married to her. As it was foreseen by the family, the boy’s life was made living hell. All that girl did was to take care of herself, spending time in beauty parlours, kitty parties and hanging out with friends.

He still wanted that maybe when they have a baby the things would change. But she aborted her first baby as she did not want the kid. Next time when she conceived, she came to know late and there was risk to her health, she decided to continue the pregnancy. Now they have a baby boy and things are none better, they are getting worse day by day.

Only “Beauty ” not always work for guys but still they always fall for beautiful faces. Oh Boy!

“THARKEY BOYS”

FLIRTING IS GUYS BASIC NATURE

Do you know that whenever a child is conceived, the brain starts it’s development as female brain. It’s only in eighth week, in boys there is sudden increase in testosterone level which fades away other emotional and visual and verbal centres [that are prominent female brain] hence leaving them with two emotions fight and flight.

 With this aggression, there comes one more thing attached to this testosterone is FLIRTING, which makes them eligible road side Romeos. Who find their Juliet in every other girl?

This is not common only with young teenager’s boys but also seen in elderly men also married men. Guys brain is hardwired to think about sexual intercourse, at least couple of times in an hour because of this influence of testosterone where as the girl’s brain think about sex, one or two times in a day.

The “flirting gene” in boys makes them a best thespian as they pretend a good and decent guy image to get the girl. Even knowing their reputation, still girls fall for them on their acts. [Check out in series 1, why girls fall for wrong guys?]

All handsome boys know this trick.

WHEN DO GUYS KNOW THAT THEY HAVE THEIR GIRL?

Answer is known to all guys, when the girl starts laughing at his jokes. But there is a trick here which distinguishes a smart guy from the foolish guy both of them trying to “woo” their respective girls. Before coming to that let me first come to why sincerely laughing at guys jokes make them weak at their knees? Why girls like their guys to be funny and have good sense of humour [well, these are two characteristic in the list of every girl for their dream boy]

The basic manevaur of genuine laughing or smiling is controlled by 2 muscles zygomatic major which run down the side of face and connect corner of month which can also be controlled consciously [hence can produce a fake smile] the other is orbicularic which pulls eye back and it works independently of any person’s control, hence reveal the true feeling of genuine laughter. Hence in genuine laughter, there are prominent laughter lines around eyes, eyes cover fold moves downward and the end of eyebrows dip downwards which lead to in papillary dilatation. Which is a key signal for courtship? To bring about the same effect, guys take their girls for candle light dinner in dim light to bring same effect so laughing which under covers ulterior sign of pupil dilatation is an important green light signal in courtship.

The trick here is, the guys should have genuine jokes where female can laugh over. All the double meaning, loose talks are strict No-No, instead of attracting opposite sex, they repulse is a fine it away. There is a fine line of demarcation between “Mr. Perfect” and a comedian in the movie or joker in the circus, which former they would like to be and which latter, they are better off where they are, not at all preferred in real life.

MAGIC TRICK FOR GIRLS-ALWAYS, ALWAYS WORK

When it is said, that guys like beautiful girls, it does not mean fair skin, sharp features, tall, slim girls. It means healthy attractive female. The key factor here is attraction guys like girls with baby face as it stimulate the paternal care centres in their brain and they want to protect and take care of their girl. If a girl, on regular basis would be able to stimulate those centres her guy would stick to her for, let say, “forever”. And this can be done by sideways looking smile”.  

Manevaur of sideways looking smile- with head turned down and away, subtly looking up. This is the most innocent and youthful smile, moreover it is men’s favourite smile all over the world. This increases male’s parental feeling, making him protective and caring about his girl.

TIP FOR GIRLS: make it regular features in your courtship repertoire for the man you like.

HERIARCHY PATTREN OF WHAT GUYS CHECK UP IN THE FEMALE THEY ARE ATTRACTIVE TO

Well, it is a biggest myth that guys first check out the female cleavage. The hierarchy of  attraction quotient is first guys check-up their girls eyes, then the step two is her smile and when girl have scored well in both above factors then come her bust and bums.

It the man is really, really interested girls hairstyle, her hair pins and her dressing sense and colour of her dress will draw guy’s undivided attention. No, doubt cosmetics and anatomy correction surgeries are million doller industries.

PHEROMONES-THE LETHAL SCENT

In every species there is a secret sent of the females that attracts the male of the species. In humans also the procedures remain the same. When the female start peering and decorating herself {in front of target men}, she purposely exposes her armpit {Green signal sign for men to make approach} and hence releasing that lethal attraction scent in air towards the target men. Subtlety the male brain picks up this scent and he gets attracted to female counter part.

 

 To be continued.......

To know more of these tricks by both players of the game-both male and females, check out my next blog dealing with modus-oprendi of the game of courtship. How it is actually played, who makes the first move, who gets the upper hand, and how these moves are decoded.

How to read it and how to counter play; check out next week in the SERIES-3 of the game of courtship 

 Check it out next week...............