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Manipulative innocence
What
is a family?
A
family is a group of people either related through blood or social rituals that
stand together, in happiness and distress, in sickness and health. They are
meant to watch each other’s back. And in the time of darkness, sacrifice the
self and think about the bigger picture.
So, this is what a family do!
Quiet
typical, so does these typical reaction happens spontaneously in atypical
situation, every time, without fail or the status of types of so called typical
reaction keep on manipulating.
ONLY GIRL, IN THE CLOTH MARKET (STORY 1)
Her father was a wholesale merchant of clothes in the
famous clothe market of Ashok Vihar. The family of five comprised of father,
mother and their three girls.
All of them were Daddy’s little girls and had a fabulous
childhood. They were the bunch of real beauties. And since they have been over
shadowed by the pampering of parents, they were little spoil brats. Since
childhood, in their innocence they used to always ask their father who among
them is his favourite daughter and he used to postpone answering it and would wisely
say only time would tell.
Time, on other hand, was in favor of them; it seemed that
every day was Diwali for them until one fateful day.
Though their father business was separate from his
brother’s, but the astute elder brother was always looking in for chances to
take over it and one day, he was actually given an opportunity.
The fateful night, suddenly their father had heart attack.
He was rushed to the hospital, with heroic efforts of doctors, his life was
saved after a major open heart surgery and he was put to bed rest for coming
six months. One problem solved, another one arise, who will take care of the
business now?
The elder brother confronted and volunteered himself for
the responsibility. For one whole month he took care of shop and once so
flourished business started to down slope in abyss of losses. It didn’t take
much time for family to figure out what was happening under their nose.
But the questions remain the same, and then who is eligible
to do business of the man, who had three daughters and no son.
The eldest girl of the family was affianced and was to get
married in next six months. The second one had just paid a huge fee for her
post graduation and the classes were due to start in a month and the third
girl, well she was just a child in high school. All three had their subsequent
errands to do which occupied whole of their time. Who would sacrifice and stand
for the family supporting its basic foundation?
Ultimately, after lot of thinking, the decision was made;
the uncle was thrown out of the business and one of the girls walked the male
dominant business market abandoning all her dreams for her father’s sake. She
was only twenty one then and she had to face the orthodox logistic of the
market but she did. This incidence dates back to year 1996, when still, the
society entangled with its fixed bigotry ideas, but the second among the
sibling who took the first step, promised herself that there won’t be any
looking back.
For one whole year, as her father recovery was extended,
she fought; she struggled and with earnest effort learned the tricks of trade.
She got her elder sister married at the decided time and definitely it was a
fabulous wedding, as it has been expected of their family. Moreover she got her
younger sister into extra-curricular activities, for over all development of
her personality and tried to live in her dreams which she couldn’t fulfil.
Though she struggled hard and tried to smoothly carry on the
responsibility bestowed to her, but she couldn’t overcome the damage that was
done by her shrewd uncle. After one year, to recover the loss, they had to sell
half of the shop at a very low price.
That day, in tears, she came to her father and cried the hell
out apologizing for letting that happen and mostly letting him down. The father
smiled and embraces her to his heart and proudly said, “Sweetheart, if it would
have been me, I won’t have been able to save us half the shop that you have
saved us, after those drastic losses, but it’s only you, who could adamantly stand
there in male mushroomed society of the cloth market and do such a good
business. My heart swells with pride and I feel so lucky to have you by my
side, my favourite daughter.”
“He’s A DEAD MEAT (STORY 2)
Once upon a time, this man, around whom this whole anecdote
revolves, was a very robust, uptight and excessive self esteem man. During his
childhood days, back in Lahore, his step mother didn’t treat him well, and when
he grew up, his brothers ditched him in family business and since then they
went different ways. As many scratches, faith put on his humble life, without a
complaint he stood up again and again.
He had two kids, elder daughter and younger son. He married
his daughter and soon she had a baby girl. When the little girl was just 3, her
father died and lady became widow. The man adopted the baby girl and re-married
her daughter.
Couple of year later he married his son. The
daughter-in-law was not a very adjusting kind, in due course of time she
started to object about their adopted daughter. Due to these everyday cat-fights, man was very much annoyed and it was after the death of his wife
[who had always and always been there for him in all up and downs of life, who
was love of his life] he decided to vend off the property and divided the share
equally in three parts, one for his son, other for his daughter and one, he
kept with himself.
The son brought a shop and a house from his share and
shifted to Dwarka, where as the man shifted to the same housing society where
his daughter lived.
The growing age
started to show on once lithe body, but still his mind was as sharp as his days
of his youth. He continued with his business and gained awesome profits through
it and his bank balance was always on increasing trend.
His daughter used to come and look after him once in a day,
as she was also a working woman. The man was so happy with his daughter care
that out of grandeur, he lent out hugs amount of money to support her lavish
lifestyle. Few years down the line, with his money his daughter buy a very big
house, five bedroom house in same housing society, though man continued to live
in his two bedroom house. The man appointed a driver, two servants for her,
whose salary he took care of.
In all these years, his adopted daughter [actually his
grand-daughter] grew up and was now of marriageable age. He found a suitable
match and in all pump and show organized a very expensive, ravishing party and
with huge dowry send her to her husband’s house, and in subsequent occasion
used to shower his limited family comparing of his daughter and grand-daughter
family with highly expensive gifts. In return they used to pay visits in his
lonely house and lonely life and that too with demand list.
His daughter also had one more son, from her second
marriage, whose education was taken cared by the man. After his post graduation
the man gifted him a ‘SUV’ car, striking sliver greyish color. Everything was
so perfectly placed when, the faith have it, REVERSAL of FORTUNE started to
happen.
The man started to lose weight, started to grow weak and
often used to fall unconscious. His daughter took him to his house and got the
investigation done. And his investigatory report revealed that due to ignored
and untreated high blood pressure, his kidneys have failed and toxins were
accumulating in the body. And since I bear an acquaintance with the family, I
was called to their home for an opinion.
His urea level was so high along was his createnine values,
clear-cut indicating Acute Renal failure which required immediate hospitalization and frequent dialysis. His age was 79 yrs and therefore they
thought to take a second opinion.
Second, third or fourth opinion but the answer was same,
inevitable hospitalization and dialysis. It took them almost one month to take
him to the hospital that too, when his condition got so worse and couldn’t be
managed at home. Doctor’s at the hospital became very critical of the family
members and reprimanded them. Immediate dialyses was performed and along with
further investigations were carried on which lead to a revelation that he was
doubtful for Prostrate carcinoma, but looking at his condition, the biopsy was
avoided.
Whole this time his daughter was in constant touch with me
and visited my clinic frequently. Here is the extract of the conversation with
her.
VISIT 1
“Doctors at that hospital are so inhumane. They talked to
us like that. They all think of making money. So much of the money is being
washed in drain on my father’s treatment, I can’t tell you Doc? But anyways,
now he feels better. But since he has been diagnosed with these complaints and
since we run in his genetic line, please write us this investigation especially
for our kidneys, to be on a safeguard for future. Write it for my daughter and
son, also.”
VISIT 2
“I am here to show you our reports. My father is fine,
though he is undergoing dialysis twice a week. He is staying at our home. You
see, doc, now one whole room have been occupied by him and we feel so much
space restrained. Moreover, money is being spent on the attendants we have kept
for him. God! They charge so much. Even the costs of Adult diapers are so high,
and two of these diapers are consumed every day. Our monthly budget has totally
shaken up.”
VISIT 3
“Doc! His condition is worsening day by day. He has started
having hallucinations now. He has become so needy that he always wants one of
us to stay with him. My son is away for his job at Indore and my daughter
already is too busy with chores of her family and her three kids, and if I stay
at house, absenting myself from the job, how on the earth, would we bear the
expense of my father’s treatment. It’s been so much stress for me. My husband
is asking me to take a break and for two days he is sending me to my son, even
my daughter would also accompany me, a short vacation. My sons have planned the
itinerary for the weekend, but look at my father; he is behaving so childish
and not letting me go. Seriously, now I need a break, otherwise my asthma is
going to aggravate. You can see under my eyes; these black circles have become
so evident now. You won’t believe, it’s been months, since I have called my
beautician home.
VISIT 4
“Doc! His conditions have become worse. We are planning
that he makes his “Will” now. Can you please come as a witness? Well, I will
send you a car. It won’t be a regular one. You see, these kids are taking ‘SUV’
to Mohali, to catch latest IPL match. My son has brought an “Endaveour”
recently. I asked him to wait, but these boys don’t listen. Look, he even
bought 51 inches LED television last month. He was also going to buy whole home theater system; I have to stop him God! These boys are too much.
Please, Doc! Do take out time to come, it is important.
And, now since his condition is worsening, it would become mandatory for us to
inform my brother, though he would come and create a mess only.”
There was no visit 5, but an emergency call, where the lady
was shrieking on top of her voice. The man had fainted and was rushed to the
intensive care unit where he was put on life support system. That night, I was
the last and only person to pay him visit in the I.C.U. and by looking at him I
knew in my heart, that this would be the end of his misery full life.
And I was proved right, the next morning, he went away, I
don’t know where, but I hope, may be to the realm of peace and happiness.
After his death, next time I met the family at his eulogy meeting.
The duo of mother and daughter approached me. They had something to tell me.
The daughter said, with broadening her eyes, “My mother had a dream yesterday,
he saw her father and he said he was really happy how her daughter took care of
him. He is very much proud of her. Doc! My mother has been a good daughter to
him, isn’t she?”
And then both looked
at me for a response.
“I guess so!” all I
said.
PHRENOLOGY
OF MANIPULATION
· The
degree of manipulation is represented as a broad forehead tapering downwards
into sharp chin, which on other hand is protruding forward.
· It
depends, if chin protrude averagely this becomes a good trait, representing
worldly wisdom and the power to execute it in a good way. These classes of
people are adamant to their words.
· But,
in case where the protrusion is excessive, it leads to astute, shrewd nature
along with obsessive compulsive behavior and self centered nature.
· Excessive
fats on the cheeks especially near the lips also represent selfish and self centered persona
MORAL
“All relationship are measured on
test of time”
