SMILE AND THE WORLD SMILES AT YOU

SMILE AND THE WORLD SMILES AT YOU

YES, it’s 100% true. SMILE is not only contagious as well as beneficial. Look at someone and smile-give that genuine ,dil se smile. Not to worry if you don’t have that million dollar smile like Madhuri just Remember Newton’s Third law – For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. So where were we? You smiled and the other person’s face brightened up and he smiled back at you. (I know yeh mujhe dekh kar kyun hasa-let him think) but you move on. People find smiling tough, leave alone laughter. But believe me a natural smile can get you a million dollar pic for FB and you will get countless likes (I vouch by this).

Self mocking is a rare human trait especially in India kyunki “par ninda mein bada sukh  hai aur dusre ka mazaak udane mein to param shanti milti hai”. But let me tell you that once you master the art of laughing at yourself you will not wait for Kapil Sharma’s comedy nights. Smiling is not difficult as it is made out to be “bas nazar chahiye” and we are so damn busy in the “The ways of the world” that we fail to notice trivial things which can brighten up our faces.

So, let me share some easy self invented smiling recipes from “BHARTI’S KITCHEN”

INGREDIENTS for all RECIPES are spread around you. All recipes are vegetarian and have proved to be beneficial to all irrespective of age, gender, caste, colour or creed.

v  Spend more time with kids (2-6yrs)-the purest form of human species. You can’t hold back your smile in their company. They make you remember your childhood and how easy life was.

v  Dance on your favourite songs or listen music(good songs and not dard bhare geet). Music really uplifts your mood.

v  Have a look at old photographs and think of those pink pyjama parties during college days. Remember all those late night calls made under quilt inspired by “jab main chota baccha tha badi shararat karta tha: courtesy Bajaj Bulbs.

v  Stay connected with old friends kyunki is bedard duniya mein wohi sacche hai. They laugh with you and not at you. Laugh out at old memories, your first crush which gradually tuned out to be an infatuation (no offence to those who got hooked with the first crush only).

v  Join Yoga or Laughter club (their job is to make you laugh).Here Newton’s Law definitely works.

This will definitely work (100% success rate with me) when I see people talking on head set going to their work or driving. (I think world was doing pretty fine even without phones)

                       

All these recipes neither need patent nor can any one steal them. Once you learn self developed techniques of smiling and laughing, you don’t depend upon anyone for your happiness. You become PRODUCER (better is ENTREPRENEUR) and not consumer. Ultimately being happy with yourself is very important because a radiant and beaming face gives positive vibes. Don’t hold back things in your heart. LET THEM GO. If you hold back petty issues in your heart, they get irritated and in return irritates you (pl refer Newton law mentioned above) so set them free.

 Life is not only small but unpredictable so why waste time? I see so many people who are damned busy in earning money or running after their ambitions but their success or achievements do not get reflected in their attitude or personality or on their faces. They are always stressed, unhappy- hasna to door ki baat hai . I would like to tell these sophisticated,successful and stiff people that a smile will not only make them look good but will definitely help them earn better also. NOW they will surely smile because money matters.

Remember A smile makes your look complete, brightens up your face and can make someone’s day. So

ALWAYS SMILE

bharti kikan

PROVINCIAL LIFE

                               PROVINCIAL LIFE

SULTERING HEAT,BLAZING SUN RIGHT ABOVE YOUR HEAD AND TO TOP IT ALL MUGGY WEATHER, YES YOU GUESSED IT RIGHT I AM TALKING ABOUT THE MONTH OF JUNE. THIS IS HOW IT IS IN DELHI RIGHT? , WELL THERE WE ARE I BRING YOU THE TWO SIDES OF SOCIETY AGAIN WHEN SOME OF US SIT IN OUR AIR CONDITIONED ROOMS SIPPING COLD COFFEE ON OUR RECLINER CHAIRS AND ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE ROAD THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WORK DAY AND NIGHT TO MAKE THE ENDS MEET. AND IN THESE PEOPLE THERE ARE FEW WHO ARE INCANDESCENT TO CONSUMMATE THEIR DREAMS.

TODAYS STORY IS ABOUT ONE SUCH GIRL "KALPANA". SLIM TALL WHEATISH A VERY ORDINARY LOOKING GIRL WHO NO GUY TAKES SPECIAL NOTICE OF AND GETS LOST IN THE CROWD EVERYDAY.KALPANA CAME TO ME AS A NORMAL PATIENT FOR THE TREATMENT OF GASTRALGIA AND INDIGESTION,IT WAS COUPLE OF YEARS BACK. I DID NOT KNOW MUCH ABOUT HER. AS A DOCTOR I HAVE PATIENTS DROPING BY AND I HAVE TO ORCHESTRATE WITH ALL OF THEM AND FRANKLY SPEAKING AT THAT MOMENT WHEN THE PENDULUM IS IN ITS FULL VELOCITY YOU DONT HAVE ENOUGH TIME TO LISTEN TO THE STORY OF AN ECENTRIC GIRL.

BUT OUT OF ALL THE PREVIOUS ENCOUNTERS I HAD WITH KALPANA ALL I COULD GARNER WAS SHE IS THE ELDEST OF THE FOUR SIBLINGS, A DRUNKARD FATHER, A SANGUINE AND UNFLAGGING MOTHER WHO WAS WORKING AS A MAID IN A SCHOOL WITH MONTHLY INCOME LESS THAN WEEKLY EXPENSES OF FEW READING THIS BLOG, SHE WAS WORKING FOR A MEAGER 5000 BUCKS AND CONSIDERING SHE WAS THE ONLY BREAD WINNER FOR THE FAMILY THIS AMOUNT WAS DIMNUTIVE. AND BELEIVE ME THIS IS THE STORY OF MAJORITY OF PEOPLE BELOW THE POVERTY LINE IN OUR SO CALLED 'MAHAN BHARAT', WHERE ON THE ONE SIDE PEOPLE ARE BUILDING HOME WORTH BILLIONS AND ON THE OTHER SIDE YOU HAVE PEOPLE LIKE KALPANA WHO HAVE FAMILY INCOME LESS THAN THE AMOUNT OF FOOD THE RICH MAN'S DOG EAT IN A MONTH. ANYWAYS THAT IS NOT WHAT I AM WRITING ABOUT TODAY.

SO COMING BACK TO KALPANA IT'S NOTHING NEW THE SAME OLD STORY ONLY THE CHARACTERS SHUNT AND THE MAGNITUDE OF TORMENT REVAMPS AND MOST OF THEM HAVE HANDED OVER THEIR LIVES TO THE DESTINY AND HAVE CHOSEN TO LIVE AND DIE THE WAY THEIR DESTINY HAS DECIDED REMEMBER THAT SONG "JINA YAHAN MARNA YAHAN ISKE SIVAH JANA KAHAN" THE PERFECT MATCH TO THE SITUATION. BUT THEN SOME ARE CONGENITAL SOLDIERS, SOLDIERS LIKE KALPANA AND HER MOTHER WHO NEVER LOST HOPE AND DEAD SET ON TO CHANGE THEIR SITUATION

COMING TO TODAY, IN JUNE GENERALLY THE NUMBER OF PATIENTS DARASTICALLY DWINDLES BECAUSE IT'S THE TIME VACATION OF SCHOOLS START AND PEOPLE HAVE HOLIDAY PLANS FOR THEIR NATIVE PLACES FOR HILL STATIONS AND WHAT NOT. THE DAY IS STILL FRESH IN MY MIND AS IT HAD HAPPENED YEESTERDAY. IT WAS 3RD OF JUNE I GOT A CHANCE TO DISCOVER KALPANA. AFTER PRESCRIBING MEDICINE I JUST CASUALLY INQUIRED HOW WAS EVERYTHING AND IT WAS THEN I GOT TO KNOW THIS SOLDIER, SHE TOLD ME, "IT'S THE SAME OLD STORY BUT THE THINGS HAVE CHANGED AND CHANGED WITH TRUCK LOADS. WE ARE NO LONGER A BUOYANT FAMILY. PREVIOUSLY MY FATHER USED TO WORK IN A FACTORY AND THE INCOME OF MY FATHER AMALGAMATED WITH THAT OF MY MOTHER WAS AMPLE TO GIVE US LITTLE HAPPINESS WHICH GAVE US A FEELING OF CONTENT." SHE TOLD ME SHE USED TO STUDY IN A GOOD GOVERNMENT SCHOOL AND RESIDED IN A BOARDING.

ON ONE USUAL DAY SHE GOT A LETTER FROM HER HOME THAT FLIPPED HER LIFE UPSIDE DOWN AND SHE SCAMPERED BACK HOME.  WHEN SHE REACHED HOME IT THE FLOOR UNDER HER FEET VANISHED. THIS IS WHEN SHE HAD HER FIRST ENCOUNTER WITH DOLDRUMS AND THAT WAS JUST A BEGINING, THE FREQUENCY OF INCIDENTS WAS SUCH HIGH THAT SHE EVEN STOPPED KEEPING A TAP ON THE NUMBERS. HER FATHER WHO ONCE ACCORDING TO HER WAS THE BEST FATHER IN THE WORLD TURNED INTO A BARBAROUS VILLIAN, ALL HE WANTED WAS ALCOHOL,ALCOHOL AND MORE ALCOHOL AND HER MOTHER WAS NOTHING MORE THAN AN ATM TO HIM, AND HER SIBLINGS WERE NOTHING MORE THAN BROKEN FURNITURE SCATTERED IN THAT ONE ROOM ACCOMODATION. ALL SHE SAW IN THESE 2 YEARS WAS VIOLENCE VILIFY AND MORE VIOLENCE, LIFE FOR HER WAS NOTHIING MORE THAN A PUNISHMENT. THE DIVERGENT PERSONA OF HER FATHER WAS MAJORLY DUE TO THE BAD COMRADESHIP HE DIVULGED INTO. HE STARTED DRINKING, LEFT HIS JOB AND ALL HE DID WAS BELABOUR HER MOTHER AND TAKE MONEY FROM HER MOTHER. THE DAY SHE CAME HOME BOTH THE MOTHER AND DAUGHTER SQUALLED THEIR SORROWS OUT IN FRONT OF EACH OHTER.

THE LAST FOUR YEARS SHE SPENT IN THE HOSTEL WERE THE BEST YEARS OF HER LIFE. SHE LIKE MOST YOUNGSTERS HAD AMBITIOUS FANTASIES, SHE MADE PLANS TO MAKE A BIG FUTURE, SHE ALSO THEN THOUGHT SHE WILL CONVERT HER LIFE IN TO A BEST ONE. BUT LITTLE DID SHE KNOW THAT BEFORE EVEN TAKING THE FIRST STEP LET ALONE FIRST STEP BEFORE EVEN TAKING BABY STEPS HER LIFE WILL LEAD INTO MISERIES AND ALL HER DREAMS WILL BE FLUSHED INTO GUTTER OF CRUELITY OF REALITY. BUT SHE DID NOT LOOSE THE COURAGE SHE TOLD HER MOTHER THAT SHE WILL LEAVE THE SCHOOL AND START WORKING TO HELP HER WINNING THE BREAD FOR THE FAMILY. BUT MOTHER DID NOT WANT TO PUSH HER DAUGHTER INTO HARDSHIOS AT SUCH TENDER AGE, HER VEHMENT MOTHER INSTEAD TOLD HER TO WORK HARD AND CHASE THE AIMS SHE HAD ALWAYS FANTASISED ABOUT.

LIFE IS LIKE A DERBY YOU HAVE TO RUN PASSING OBSTACLES AND HURDELS BUT THE HOSE THAT WINS IS THE ONE WHO NEVER STOPS, AND PASSES THE HURDLES EVEN WITH A BROKEN LEG. TODAY KALPANA HAS LEFT THAT SCHOOL  AND NO LONGER STAYS IN THE HOSTEL RATHER SHE STUDIES IN A LOCAL GOVERNMENT SCHOOL, SHE IS IN HER 12TH STANDARD PERSUING ARTS. SHE KEEPS ON STRIVING FOR A PART TIME JOB TO RELEIVE A LITTILE FINANCIAL TIRBULATION OF HER MOTHER. BUT BECAUSE OF LACK OF SKILLS LIKE FLUENT ENGLISH AND COMPUTER SKILLS THE OPPURTUNITIES IN OUR SO CALLED "MODERN SOCIETY" ARE LESS. SHE TRIED HER HAND IN TEACHING NEIGHBOURHOOD CHILDREN BUT DUE TO LACK OF SPACE AND NEIGHBOURS SHARING THE SAME FINANCIAL STATUS THE IDEA WAS RELINQUISHED. JUNE AS YOU ALL KNOW IS VACATION IN THE SCHOOL  AND HER ONLY PLAN FOR THE HOLIDAYS WAS TO FIND A JOB WHICH SHE COULD LATER PERSUE WITH HER STUDIES AS WELL SO SHE IS TRYING FOR A SHIFT IN MC DONALDS. HER FINGERS ARE CROSSED FOR THAT JOB AS IT IS ONE OF THE LAST HOPES SHE HAS IN HER HAND.

SHE IS A STRONG GIRL NOW, HER TEARS HAVE DRIED AND THE MISERIES IN HER LIFE DONT BOTHER HER ANYMORE BECAUSE SHE IS NOW USED TO IT, BUT THE FIGHT WITH THE DESTINY IS STILL ON AND THE SPARK OF DREAMS IN HER EYES IS STILL AT THE FULLEST. ALL SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE WILL WORK DAY AND NIGHT TO SEE THAT ONE LITTLE  SMILE AND SIGH OF RELEIF ON HER MOTHER'S FACE AND WANTS TO BEAR THE COMPLETE BURDEN OF HER YOUNGER SIBLINGS. EVERY PASSING DAY BRINGS TROUBLE AND STRUGGLE SINCE LAST 2 YEARS AND SHE DOESN'T KNOW HOW LONG IT WILL CONTINUE, ALL SHE KNOWS IS THE DREAM SHE HAD ALWAYS THOUGHT OFF ALL SHE KNOWS AND SEES IS THE HARDSHIP HER MOTHER HAS DONE SINCE LAST 2 YEARS AND ALL SHE WANTS IS TO GIVE HER MOTHER SOME REST FOR REST OF HER LIFE AND BRING BACK THE HAPPINESS WHICH ONCE EXISTED IN HER FAMILY. I AM SURE THAT ONE DAY I WILL AGAIN WRITE A BLOG ABOUT HER BUT THAT TIME HER LIFE WOULD HAVE TAKEN A COMPLETE TURN AND HER SHARE OF HAPPINESS WOULD HAVE BEEN BESTOWED TO THIS FIGHTER. I WISH HER GOOD LUCK AND PRAY FOR HER SUCCESS

PROFESSION- commander

PROFESSION- commander

SYSTEM DOMINENCE- brain for comprehensiveness

                                        Bone and muscles for stability and aggression

                                           Thoracic for clarity and mind

                                           Vegetative which nourish and sustain mental efforts

TRAIT

1.       CONSCIENCE (honour, honesty, integrity, morality)- width of the chin along with general straightness.

2.       FIRMNESS- protrudence of chin slightly forward

3.       PATROTISM- fullness of chin under lower lip

4.       AMATIVENESS (procreative energy, physical passion) - fullness redness and moisture of centre of upper lip, convex eyes, rounding muscular body, round limbs.

5.       PNEUMATIVENESS (the one who desire open fresh air. More supply of pure air to system bring on traits of morality, leadership, command, power and desire to travel in high places like mountains and lofty scenery)- wide large nostrils, high and broad nose, breadth of face externally to eyes, red or pink ears, brightness of eyes, good fresh colour complexion, clearness of skin, red lips and gums. Slightly receding forehead and sharply defined outlines of nose and chest.

6.       COLOUR SENSE- clearness of skin, a good colour of complexion, eyes, eyebrows and hair. The veins showing plainly through skin.

7.       SECRETIVENESS- compressed thin lips, small mouth; half closed peeping eyes, very small eyes, and long lashes. Flat nostril is a sign seen in Negros. Subdued tone of voice.

8.       CAUTION- length and breadth of nose. Length of the nose only indicates caution manifested in timid people. Long and thin ears, long and thin neck and long and thin legs are secondary signs.

9.       SELF-ESTEEM- length of upper lip

10.   FORCE- large convex eyes, round or oval face, large mouth, heavy and wide lower jaw, wide nostrils, square jaws, strong and square bones, low, broad forehead, round head, heavy eyebrows, an abundance of coarse hair and round muscular ears setting well out from head.

11.   FORM- width of bony structure between the eyes.

12.   HUMAN NATURE (intuitive perception of human character) - height of tip of nose above the plane of face causing it to stand far out and above the surrounding part.

13.   CONSTRUCTIONS (ability to build) - rounded out at sides/ alae just below the bridge.

14.   SIZE- width of ethmoid bone which join nose with forehead forming a ‘V’ between the inner terminus of eyebrows and root of nose.

15.   CALCULATION- pronounced by the space between the outer terminus of eyebrow and outer angle of the eye. The formation causes eyebrows to flex upward.

16.   REASON- septum of nose

17.   LOCALITY (capacity of recollecting positions, direction, places once visited and relative position of objects to each other)- fullness of muscles around the eyes near the forehead.

18.   ORDER- bones of forehead exhibit square appearance at side.

19.   OBSERVATION (taking notice)- the middle of lower part of forehead, between inner terminus of eyebrows and above root of nose, when large filling out of muscles at this part and cause eyebrows to draw down in order to facilitate more accurate vision

20.   EXECUTIVENESS- height and breadth of nasal bone and development of pyramidalis nasi muscle. The most executive nose is long broad as well as high with large nostrils, large mouth and large eyes (not projecting).

21.   SELF-WILL - Fullness of muscles at root of nose at its junction with forehead.

-          Fullness of muscles back to neck.

-          Curved lower jaw

-          Rounding out of sides of forehead

-          Large full convex eyes

-          Short rounding ear

-          Thick round nose

-          Short thick muscular hands with tapering finger

Breaking Free

DID YOU CHECK YOUR BUCKET LIST?

YES I OPENED it and OMG! So much is left to be done…

As I turn a year older and take one more step towards the horizon, I realized how many things are still left to be done. Mind it, these things are not worldly duties or family responsibilities but those small pleasures of life and things which always interested me. As I go through my list, I find some pleasures were so trivial that I could have accomplished them at that time only. But I don’t know or remember what stopped me then or what stops me now? So today I promise myself that no matter what I will sincerely try the following:

I'M GONNA MAKE
THE REST OF MY LIFE
THE BEST OF MY LIFE

This will be my mantra from today. I would appreciate people if they accept me as I am and don’t burden me with their expectations.SORRY I am neither a tele serial Bahu nor a typical Beti. I have changed enough for many people (believe me 95% were undeserving).LOVE and RESPECT are unconditional (at least I believe so). Don’t follow my principles and neither feel obliged to follow mine. This is MY LIFE and I will live it once only. BE an INDIVIDUAL and let me be the same. You will be happy and at peace. AMEN and TRUCE

Back to my bucket list-I will learn the things I wanted to like driving, sketching,whistling etc without thinking about Economists-“ISSE kya fayda hoga? Is umar mein drawing seekhni hai?’ Back then I was clueless, now my answer is “It will make me happy and for me my happiness is not only important but it’s priceless also”.

I will laugh as much and as loudly I can because it makes me look beautiful and its free.( Also I can’t afford Botox shots to get rid of so called fine lines)

I will read all the books I had wished and not wait for sales /discounts.

I will try my best to visit the places I had always wished for because “ You have to visit places, places don’t visit you.” Useless to go when ‘PETU MEIN AANTH(intestine) NAHIN AUR MUH MEIN DAANT NAHIN’) At 50-55 I don’t think I will be able to do Rain Dance (Kajol-SRK in KKHH) or standing atop a snow clad mountain in chiffon sari ( Madhuri Dixit a la PUKAR). YUP! No sharam I am a complete BOLLYWOOD buff and a die hard romantic.

I will eat what I like and the way I like (don’t worry I will take care of my health and continue with my exercise regime). But DUNIYA WALON meri UMAR AUR SEHAT ke naam par mera khana mat band karo. Our country has many problems, think about that and not about my weight and fat. I am beautiful and comfortable with my body and I love my curves.

I will walk and dance in the rain (with an occasional ice cream-it tastes best) and will not care about LOG KYA KAHENGE woh to waise bhi kahenge.

I love to watch sunrise and sunset. Sunrise gives me hope, positive energy that I can still do better. Sunset tells me I need to hurry up as the mighty Sun also sets and every thing has an expiry date.

And the most important thing—I will “LET THE CHILD IN ME LIVE FOREVER.” NO matter what people say “Jeeyenge toh saath aur marenge toh saath” (Told you I am very filmy).

Stay connected with my old buddies and relive old memories.

I love kids and elders and bond instantly with them. Kids make me feel young. Interacting with them helps me understand their views and thoughts. Learning modern gadgets from them gives me a feeling that all my senses are still working decently and a sense of accomplishment. Older lot forces me to do the incomplete tasks and fulfil my wishes because every actor has a limited part.

See how much time I have wasted in pleasing people par “HAI RI KISMAT still no one is happy”.

So MERI UMAR KE NAUJWANO,
LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH and STAY CALM
open up your bucket list and as SALMAN KHAN says
“DO WHATEVER YOU WANT TO DO”
because ABHI NAHIN TOH KAB.

Remember to share some of your wishes, may be we have something in common

By BHARTI KIKAN